Also during these years in London, Swift became acquainted with the Vanhomrigh family (Dutch merchants who had settled in Ireland, then moved to London) and became involved with one of the daughters, Esther . Swift furnished Esther with the nickname " Vanessa " (derived by adding "Essa", a pet form of Esther, to the "Van" of her surname, Vanhomrigh), and she features as one of the main characters in his poem Cadenus and Vanessa . The poem and their correspondence suggest that Esther was infatuated with Swift, and that he may have reciprocated her affections, only to regret this and then try to break off the relationship.  Esther followed Swift to Ireland in 1714, and settled at her old family home, Celbridge Abbey . Their uneasy relationship continued for some years; then there appears to have been a confrontation, possibly involving Esther Johnson. Esther Vanhomrigh died in 1723 at the age of 35, having destroyed the will she had made in Swift's favour.  Another lady with whom he had a close but less intense relationship was Anne Long , a toast of the Kit-Cat Club .
He left very angry and went to our cabin in northern Minnesota. While he was there I got together with the people at Families in Crisis who helped me write this book. They believe, and so do I, that the way to get to the bottom of this kind of problem and get a really full picture of the trouble is to talk to people around the person who is drinking. That’s what’s so neat about the process, which they call “intervention.” Everyone who’s close to you starts seeing what a full-blown problem it is. And I want to stress that it’s the family that intervenes, not a counselor who takes over and decides he’s going to handle the drunk.
I think I have gone over most of the errors in conversation, that have fallen under my notice or memory, except some that are merely personal, and others too gross to need exploding; such as lewd or profane talk; but I pretend only to treat the errors of conversation in general, and not the several subjects of discourse, which would be infinite. Thus we see how human nature is most debased, by the abuse of that faculty, which is held the great distinction between men and brutes; and how little advantage we make of that which might be the greatest, the most lasting, and the most innocent, as well as useful pleasure of life.